Bize zarar veren bir \u015feyi neden b\u0131rakm\u0131yoruz?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsan neden \u0131srarla kendisine iyi gelmeyen \u015feyleri terk etmek yerine, inatla avu\u00e7lay\u0131p b\u0131rakm\u0131yor?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Belki de insan\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7eli\u015fkilerinden biri budur. Can\u0131n\u0131 ac\u0131tan\u0131 bilir, yoran\u0131 bilir, kendisinden eksilteni bilir ama yine de ondan vazge\u00e7emez. Sanki b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 anda bir \u015feyini kaybedecekmi\u015f gibi, daha fazla s\u0131k\u0131 tutar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Oysa baz\u0131 \u015feyleri avu\u00e7lad\u0131k\u00e7a sahip olmazs\u0131n; sadece daha fazla ac\u0131t\u0131rs\u0131n kendini.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bazen bir insan\u0131 b\u0131rakmam\u0131z gerekir. Bazen bir al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131, bazen bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyi, bazen de y\u0131llard\u0131r ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ama insan, al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 ac\u0131y\u0131 bile zamanla kendi d\u00fczeninin bir par\u00e7as\u0131 haline getirebiliyor. Ac\u0131 tan\u0131d\u0131kt\u0131r \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc. Bilinmeyen bir huzurdan daha g\u00fcvenli gelir bazen insana.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Belki de bu y\u00fczden b\u0131rakmak zor gelir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc b\u0131rakmak yaln\u0131zca bir \u015feyden vazge\u00e7mek de\u011fildir. B\u0131rakmak, onunla birlikte kurdu\u011fun hayallerden, beklentilerden ve \u201cbelki bir g\u00fcn d\u00fczelir\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesinden de vazge\u00e7mektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsan \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ger\u00e7e\u011fi de\u011fil, olmas\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011fi \u015feyi tutar avucunda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir g\u00fcn de\u011fi\u015fir diye bekler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir g\u00fcn anlar diye susar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir g\u00fcn k\u0131ymetimi bilir diye sabreder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir g\u00fcn her \u015fey eskisi gibi olur diye ge\u00e7mi\u015fe tutunur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ama baz\u0131 \u015feylerin de\u011fi\u015fmesi i\u00e7in daha fazla beklemek de\u011fil, art\u0131k beklemeyi b\u0131rakmak gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc her bekleyi\u015f sab\u0131r de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bazen beklemek, kendimize yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z haks\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ba\u015fka bir ad\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsan\u0131n kendisine en b\u00fcy\u00fck iyili\u011fi, her \u015feyi kaybetmemek i\u00e7in her \u015feye tutunmak olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlamas\u0131d\u0131r. Baz\u0131 kay\u0131plar asl\u0131nda kurtulu\u015ftur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bazen bir kap\u0131n\u0131n kapanmas\u0131, ba\u015fka bir kap\u0131n\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131lmas\u0131 de\u011fildir mesele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bazen mesele, art\u0131k o kap\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde beklemeyi b\u0131rakmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan\u0131n hayat\u0131nda \u00f6yle \u015feyler vard\u0131r ki, onlar\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131maya devam ettik\u00e7e kendisine yer kalmaz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ge\u00e7mi\u015fin y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fc ta\u015f\u0131yan, gelece\u011fine yer a\u00e7amaz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
K\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fcten, huzurunu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fclt\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kendisine iyi gelmeyen insanlar\u0131 hayat\u0131nda tutmaya devam eden, bir s\u00fcre sonra kendisinden uzakla\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ve belki de en ac\u0131s\u0131 budur:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsan, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 kaybetmemek u\u011fruna kendisini kaybedebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Oysa hayat, her \u015feyi tutabilme g\u00fcc\u00fcyle de\u011fil, neyi ne zaman b\u0131rakaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilme olgunlu\u011fuyla anlam kazan\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bazen b\u0131rakmak yenilmek de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bazen b\u0131rakmak, kendini se\u00e7mektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bazen vazge\u00e7mek korkakl\u0131k de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bazen insan\u0131n kendisine kar\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6sterebilece\u011fi en b\u00fcy\u00fck cesarettir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc baz\u0131 \u015feyler d\u00fczelmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Baz\u0131 insanlar de\u011fi\u015fmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Baz\u0131 yaralar ayn\u0131 yerde kal\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ve baz\u0131 yollar, ne kadar y\u00fcr\u00fcrsen y\u00fcr\u00fc, seni gitmek istedi\u011fin yere g\u00f6t\u00fcrmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bunu kabul etmek kolay de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ama insan bir g\u00fcn \u015funu \u00f6\u011freniyor:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Her tuttu\u011fumuz \u015fey bizim de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Her kaybetti\u011fimiz \u015fey de kay\u0131p de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ve her b\u0131rak\u0131\u015f, bir son anlam\u0131na gelmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bazen bir \u015feyi b\u0131rakmak, kendimize yeniden sar\u0131lman\u0131n ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Belki de as\u0131l mesele \u015fudur:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bize zarar verdi\u011fini bildi\u011fimiz halde neden h\u00e2l\u00e2 onu avu\u00e7lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n i\u00e7inde tutuyoruz?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Belki korktu\u011fumuz i\u00e7in\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Belki al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Belki yaln\u0131z kalmaktan\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Belki de b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda elimizde hi\u00e7bir \u015fey kalmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz i\u00e7in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Oysa bazen elimizde hi\u00e7bir \u015fey kalmamas\u0131 gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ancak ellerimizi bo\u015faltt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda, ger\u00e7ekten bize ait olan\u0131 tutabilecek hale geliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ve belki hayat\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck derslerinden biri \u015fudur:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kendine iyi gelmeyeni b\u0131rakmak, hayattan vazge\u00e7mek de\u011fil; kendinden vazge\u00e7memeyi se\u00e7mektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Bize zarar veren bir \u015feyi neden b\u0131rakm\u0131yoruz? \u0130nsan neden \u0131srarla kendisine iyi gelmeyen \u015feyleri terk etmek yerine, inatla avu\u00e7lay\u0131p b\u0131rakm\u0131yor? Belki de insan\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7eli\u015fkilerinden biri budur. Can\u0131n\u0131 ac\u0131tan\u0131 bilir, yoran\u0131 bilir, kendisinden eksilteni bilir ama yine de ondan vazge\u00e7emez. Sanki b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 anda bir \u015feyini kaybedecekmi\u015f gibi, daha fazla s\u0131k\u0131 tutar. Oysa baz\u0131 \u015feyleri […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":396,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":{"format":"standard"},"jnews_primary_category":[],"jnews_social_meta":[],"jnews_review":[],"enable_review":"","type":"","name":"","summary":"","brand":"","sku":"","good":[],"bad":[],"score_override":"","override_value":"","rating":[],"price":[],"jnews_override_counter":[],"jnews_post_split":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[47],"tags":[57,53,54,55,56,49],"class_list":["post-394","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-insan","tag-baslangic","tag-insan-2","tag-uzulmek","tag-uzuntu","tag-vazgecek","tag-yasam"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/394","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=394"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/394\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":397,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/394\/revisions\/397"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/396"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=394"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=394"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=394"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}