Hayatta baz\u0131 c\u00fcmleler vard\u0131r; ilk okundu\u011funda basit g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr, fakat \u00fczerinde biraz d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde insan\u0131n kendisiyle, ili\u015fkileriyle ve hayatla kurdu\u011fu ba\u011fa dair derin anlamlar ta\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cKap\u0131y\u0131 kapatmadan i\u00e7eride kalabilmekti t\u00fcm mesele. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kapatt\u0131ktan sonra i\u00e7eride durmak bir anlam ifade etmiyor.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bu c\u00fcmle, asl\u0131nda insan\u0131n \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ile aidiyeti aras\u0131ndaki ince \u00e7izgiyi anlat\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bir yerde bulunmakla, orada kalmay\u0131 se\u00e7mek ayn\u0131 \u015fey de\u011fildir. Bir insan\u0131n i\u00e7eride olmas\u0131, e\u011fer kap\u0131 kapal\u0131ysa, onun ger\u00e7ekten orada kalmak istedi\u011fini g\u00f6stermez. Belki de sadece \u00e7\u0131kamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in i\u00e7eridedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Oysa kap\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131ksa durum de\u011fi\u015fir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kap\u0131n\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131k olmas\u0131, gitme ihtimalinin h\u00e2l\u00e2 var oldu\u011funu g\u00f6sterir. \u0130nsan isterse \u00e7\u0131kabilir, uzakla\u015fabilir, ba\u015fka bir yolu tercih edebilir. Fakat b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlara ra\u011fmen bulundu\u011fu yerde kal\u0131yorsa, i\u015fte o zaman kalmas\u0131n\u0131n bir anlam\u0131 vard\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc art\u0131k bu bir mecburiyet de\u011fil, bir tercihtir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsan ili\u015fkilerinde de en \u00f6nemli meselelerden biri budur. Birini yan\u0131nda tutmak ile birinin kendi iste\u011fiyle yan\u0131nda kalmas\u0131 aras\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fck bir fark vard\u0131r. Sevgi, bir insan\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne duvarlar \u00f6rerek onu yan\u0131nda tutmak de\u011fildir. Ger\u00e7ek sevgi, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki insan\u0131n \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne ra\u011fmen onun yan\u0131nda kalmay\u0131 se\u00e7mesidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan ancak \u00f6zg\u00fcr oldu\u011fu zaman yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 se\u00e7imin sorumlulu\u011funu ger\u00e7ekten \u00fcstlenebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir insan\u0131n \u201cGitmek istersen gidebilirsin\u201d denildi\u011finde h\u00e2l\u00e2 kalmay\u0131 tercih etmesi, belki de ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n en samimi h\u00e2lidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc art\u0131k onu tutan bir zincir yoktur. Kap\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131kt\u0131r. Yol a\u00e7\u0131kt\u0131r. Fakat o insan yine de bulundu\u011fu yeri terk etmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bu durum sadece a\u015fk ve ili\u015fkiler i\u00e7in ge\u00e7erli de\u011fildir. Dostluklarda, aile ba\u011flar\u0131nda, i\u015f hayat\u0131nda, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015fehirlerde ve hatta hayata kar\u015f\u0131 duru\u015fumuzda da ayn\u0131 durum s\u00f6z konusudur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bazen insanlar al\u0131\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in bir yerde kal\u0131rlar. Bazen korktuklar\u0131 i\u00e7in, bazen yaln\u0131z kalmamak i\u00e7in, bazen de ba\u015fka bir se\u00e7enekleri olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fckleri i\u00e7in\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Fakat al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131kla kalmak ile isteyerek kalmak aras\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fck bir fark vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsan zaman zaman kendisine \u015fu soruyu sormal\u0131d\u0131r:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cE\u011fer \u00f6n\u00fcmde b\u00fct\u00fcn kap\u0131lar a\u00e7\u0131k olsayd\u0131, yine de burada kalmay\u0131 se\u00e7er miydim?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bu sorunun cevab\u0131, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman insan\u0131n ger\u00e7ek duygular\u0131n\u0131 ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc baz\u0131 \u015feyleri kaybetmekten korktu\u011fumuz i\u00e7in de\u011fil, ger\u00e7ekten istedi\u011fimiz i\u00e7in s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmeliyiz. Bir ili\u015fkiyi yaln\u0131z kalmamak i\u00e7in de\u011fil, o insanla birlikte olmak istedi\u011fimiz i\u00e7in devam ettirmeliyiz. Bir dostlu\u011fu ge\u00e7mi\u015fin hat\u0131r\u0131na de\u011fil, bug\u00fcn h\u00e2l\u00e2 de\u011fer verdi\u011fimiz i\u00e7in ya\u015fatmal\u0131y\u0131z. Bir yerde yaln\u0131zca al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in de\u011fil, orada kendimizi buldu\u011fumuz i\u00e7in kalmal\u0131y\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kap\u0131n\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131k olmas\u0131 bu y\u00fczden \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u00e7\u0131k kap\u0131, her zaman gitmek anlam\u0131na gelmez. Bazen tam tersine, kalman\u0131n de\u011ferini ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde se\u00e7enekler varken yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 se\u00e7im daha ger\u00e7ektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kapal\u0131 bir kap\u0131n\u0131n ard\u0131nda kalmak bir zorunluluk olabilir. A\u00e7\u0131k bir kap\u0131n\u0131n ard\u0131nda kalmak ise bir iradedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Belki de hayat\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck yan\u0131lg\u0131lar\u0131ndan biri, insanlar\u0131 kaybetmemek i\u00e7in onlar\u0131n kap\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 kapatmakt\u0131r. Oysa bir insan\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten yan\u0131m\u0131zda tutman\u0131n yolu onun \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 engellemek de\u011fil, \u00e7\u0131kabilece\u011fi h\u00e2lde kalmak isteyece\u011fi bir ba\u011f kurabilmektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc zorla tutulan insan\u0131n bedeni yan\u0131m\u0131zda olabilir, fakat kalbi \u00e7oktan gitmi\u015f olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ger\u00e7ek ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131k ise insan\u0131n hem gidebilme \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne sahip olmas\u0131 hem de gitmemeyi se\u00e7mesidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bu nedenle bazen kap\u0131lar\u0131 kapatmamak gerekir. \u0130nsanlara, kendimize ve hayata bir miktar alan b\u0131rakmak gerekir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck olmadan aidiyetin, tercih olmadan ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n, g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fcl\u00fck olmadan kalman\u0131n ger\u00e7ek anlam\u0131n\u0131 bulmas\u0131 zordur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sonu\u00e7ta mesele i\u00e7eride olmak de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mesele, kap\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131kken i\u00e7eride kalabilmektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kap\u0131 kapand\u0131ktan sonra i\u00e7eride kalmak bir ba\u015far\u0131 de\u011fildir. As\u0131l anlaml\u0131 olan, kap\u0131n\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131k oldu\u011funu bilmek, d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kabilece\u011fini bilmek ve buna ra\u011fmen i\u00e7eride kalmay\u0131 se\u00e7mektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Belki de ger\u00e7ek sevgi budur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ger\u00e7ek dostluk budur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ger\u00e7ek aidiyet budur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ve belki de insan\u0131n hayat\u0131nda aramas\u0131 gereken en de\u011ferli \u015feylerden biri \u015fudur:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gitme \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne sahipken kalmay\u0131 se\u00e7en insanlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc onlar kap\u0131y\u0131 kapatt\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in de\u011fil, kap\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k oldu\u011fu h\u00e2lde gitmedikleri i\u00e7in yan\u0131m\u0131zdad\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hayatta baz\u0131 c\u00fcmleler vard\u0131r; ilk okundu\u011funda basit g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr, fakat \u00fczerinde biraz d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde insan\u0131n kendisiyle, ili\u015fkileriyle ve hayatla kurdu\u011fu ba\u011fa dair derin anlamlar ta\u015f\u0131r. \u201cKap\u0131y\u0131 kapatmadan i\u00e7eride kalabilmekti t\u00fcm mesele. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kapatt\u0131ktan sonra i\u00e7eride durmak bir anlam ifade etmiyor.\u201d Bu c\u00fcmle, asl\u0131nda insan\u0131n \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ile aidiyeti aras\u0131ndaki ince \u00e7izgiyi anlat\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bir yerde bulunmakla, orada kalmay\u0131 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":353,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":{"format":"standard"},"jnews_primary_category":[],"jnews_social_meta":[],"jnews_review":[],"enable_review":"","type":"","name":"","summary":"","brand":"","sku":"","good":[],"bad":[],"score_override":"","override_value":"","rating":[],"price":[],"jnews_override_counter":[],"jnews_post_split":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-352","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-genel"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/352","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=352"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/352\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":357,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/352\/revisions\/357"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/353"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=352"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=352"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.knn.net.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=352"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}